Soap Box (again)

So I will admit that I am a full on Facebook addict. I spend waayyy too many hours a day checking out what all my "friends" doing, playing Farmtown or Yoville, or just generally wasting time. I have a "friend", well lets call it what it really is shall we? I have an acquaintance that I may or may not have met a few years back who was in the same mother's group as myself. She has since moved away but asked to be my Facebook friend a few weeks back. And who am I to say no?? I just didn't want to be mean and hell what's one more person. Anyway she is apparently going through a rough time (based on several what I hope were drunken status posts). Well she used the F word. OK not fuck because I have as you see no problem with that word. No she used the F word that rhymes with maggot and is a derogatory word used to describe gay people. And yes I detest this word so much I will not even type it (much like the more known N word). It is a word generally used with such hate about gay people that it turns my stomach. So I made a personal vow to never use the word myself. It bothers me when people feel like they can use it whenever to refer to anyone because they don't like something. I can't stand people using gay words to make things negative because it casts all gay people in a negative light. Some will say I am over reacting and calling someone the F word or telling someone "they are so gay" is no big deal. Well it is. It's the start of intolerance which is never good. When I was teaching high school this word was used a lot by the students along with the phrase "that's so gay" or "you're so gay". I banned both the F word and the using the word gay to describe something the kids didn't like in my classroom. I tried to explain to them how much pain and discrimination these words cause. So when my "friend" used the F word my first thought was to unfriend her (but we all know how I hate that). So I haven't unfriended her so instead I am on my soap box again on this blog. But the next time you think about using the F word or calling something gay think about it first please. You care condoning intolerance and hate.

The Real World

I love The Real World. I have watched since the very 1st show with Julie, Eric, Becky, Kevin and all the rest (and yes I can name them all I am just sparing you) in New York.


There was nothing like it on TV at that point. Some have said it was the first reality TV show. So maybe that is where I started my reality TV addition! But I was in high school at the time and could relate to Julie and all the things happening to her and the cast. They for the most part were not that much older than myself. Anyway I was hooked and have been ever since. I have watched every season since with out fail.

The new season premiered this week and my Tivo had it waiting for me. So instead of going to bed at a decent hour last night I stayed up and watched the premiere episode of The Real World: Brooklyn.


This season looks like it will be a really good one. But something has changed for me. I still love the show but I have gone from relating to the cast as a peer, to thinking of them like children!!! Oh the horror!!! I guess I have to admit that this started happening a few seasons ago when they were in Denver.
Davis the "gay" one (the very cute blond guy on the left with the yellow shirt) revealed that his mom was very upset by his "choice" to be gay. He broke down and cried and told all about how awful his mom and family had been about his coming out. I was just in tears watching him. And all I could think was how the hell could any mother treat her child that way???? I would never and could never do that to my children. I would be just as proud and happy to have a gay child as a I would to have a straight one. It would not matter a bit to me as long as my child were happy. And all I wanted to do was to reach out to Davis and tell him what a wonderful human being he is and that I would be his mother if he would have me!! So I went from feeling like I could be on The Real World to feeling like I could be the mother of one of the kids on The Real World. Wow I am getting old.