Confessions of the Day 9

I told my 5 year old to go into his sisters' room this morning when she was crying to get out of her crib and entertain her so I could sleep for 5 more minutes.

My son lost TV for a week because of some really BAD behavior last week but I was having such a bad day that I broke down and let him watch a movie.

My van wouldn't start this afternoon (I left the door open and drained the battery) when I was headed out to pick up my son from school. No one was around the neighborhood to help me jump start it and my hubby was at work giving an exam so I had no way to get him. I luckily got in touch with my neighbor who could get him but because I was running so late to pick him up in the first place, by the time I had everything arranged it was way late and it made his teacher have to stay late. During teacher appreciation week no less.

Oh and I had no clue it was teacher appreciation week until today and still have not gotten my son's teachers anything or done anything for them period yet.

Crazy Soccer Mom (not me!!)

My son is playing on a local recreation soccer league in the boys 5&6 division. He asked to play soccer this spring and has played every spring since he was three. And really likes it. Now I have to admit that he's not that great a soccer player. He's not that coordinated and he has the attention span of a gnat or a fairly typical 5 year old. He is also the youngest player on the team because he is an August baby he missed the age cut off for the 5&6 division but I requested him to play up since he's HUGE!! He's the average height of a 7 year old and I didn't think it was fair to have him play with 3&4 year olds. Plus he would have hated it and wanted to be with his friends. OK so now you have the background. Well there is a crazy mom and when I say crazy I mean weird, annoying, and inappropriate, that I have to deal with. The first couple of practices I noticed her correcting my son's behavior. I was OK with that because he was goofing off (picking grass and staring off into space) and I would have corrected him had I been closer. But I was also annoyed because I would NEVER correct another person's child (especially one I didn't know) for just goofing off (I would correct them if they were hurting other kids). Anyway I didn't say anything to her or do anything about. I should have and nipped her damn behavior in the bub because at the next game after we lost and my son had had a really bad game (not paying attention to the ball and falling down all the time) she turned to me said.

"He really shouldn't be playing. He's not up to it."

At this same game she also berated the coach because the game started 2 minutes early and since she wasn't there on time her son didn't get to start. She also yelled at our team to kick the kids on the other team!!! See she's crazy!! I was so stunned she had the nerve to tell me that, that I didn't say anything to her and just walked away. And that's not the end either!! At the next practice she stood near me and gave me a run down on every little dumb thing my son did.

Like "Oh look now he's got his shirt over his head. What is he doing that for?" "Oh he's spinning in circles and getting dizzy now."

I tried walking away but that didn't help she just kept giving me a play by play!! Now I hate confrontation so I didn't say anything because I wanted to keep things civil for the kids.
And I have to say her son sucks just as much as mine does! Hes not the star of the team. In fact I would say he's just as goofy as my son but with slightly better focus. I really have no idea what to do about her!! It's a freaking rec league and it's 5&6 year olds!! CHILL THE FUCK OUT LADY! What would you do???? Any suggestions as to how I should handle this because ignoring her isn't working and it's driving me crazy!

Confessions of the Day 8

I fed my kids their dinner and put them to bed then came downstairs and had a bowl of High School Musical cereal which is my sons but oh well.

I confess that I hate taking my son to his gymnastics class if my friend isn't there. I almost skipped it today because she and her son weren't going. I went only because we can't make up the class because of his soccer games. It is one hour of pure torture because my daughter wrecks havoc and all the uppity moms who managed to shower today gave me looks and pull their purses out of her way so god forbid she touch their designer bags.

My Friend Jennie Stencel

Ok so one of my best friends in the entire world is Jennie. I have known the girl since 5th grade. I dare say she knows me as well if not better than my own husband. Well I always knew she would go on to do something funny and something that would get her attention. Well she is the morning traffic girl for WXII a news station in Greensboro. Her antics come as no shock to me in fact this is all just "normal" behavior for Jennie. So let's just say she has always acted like she does on the air. Check one of her many clips on YouTube below.


She also had a blog that is funny check that out here.
Oh and if you have a Facebook page become her fan here.
Oh and she owns and perfroms in an improv comedy club called The Idiot Box with her husband Steve. I have been to a few shows and they are very funny so if you are in Greensboro or just passing through go check them out!!!

I just wanted to give her a little love here on my blog since I don't live in the same town anymore and don't get to see her often enough.


*****Update******
This is a pretty old post if you would like to see the newest information on Jennie please go here!

My Two Cents on the Octuplets

The more I hear about the mother of the octuplets born last week the more upset I get. Now don't get me wrong I don't think she is entirely to blame. There is a "fertility" doctor out there just as much to blame in my book.

Here is my background and why I feel the need to voice my opinion here. I had fertility trouble with both my children. Shortly after I got married in 1999, my husband and I decided that I would go off the pill and we would see what happened. We were so busy at the time with working and grad school that we didn't really notice that I wasn't getting pregnant. Around 2001 I started to get concerned and so at my next OB/GYN annual I brought up the fact that things weren't right. Long story short I have PCOS and it finally diagnosed a few months later. I then started seeing an Reproductive Endocrinology & Infertility specialist. My son was born in 2003 with the help of some oral medication that helped me start to ovulate (not Clomid). I always knew I wanted more than one child so soon after my son turned 1 we started working on child #2. I started with the oral medication I took with my son. A year or so went by with nothing. So we went back to the fertility doc and he upped the dosage on the meds I was already taking. More time went by with nothing. We then started to talk about other options since the meds were not working. My doc had 4 different plans of attack. We started with the least invasive and least expensive which was oral clomid (which makes you ovulate several eggs at a time). Several rounds of this and still nothing. So after about 8 months we went on to the next plan of attack, 2 different ovulation meds that had to used as shots in the abdomen. I got really lucky and on the first round of shots I got pregnant. I had my daughter in November of 2007. But there were 3 years of unsuccessful treatments and emotional torture. Yes I do mean torture. I am not being overly dramatic. Unless you have felt the agony of hoping it will work this time and the crushing disappointment when you are not pregnant ... well you just don't have a clue. It's hard to describe how awful it feels to have a female body that simply does not work. This is what our bodies are supposed to do ... it's nature and when yours can't you just don't feel female. It's overwhelming to say the least. Now all this said you know I have a background in infertility and I know all the terms and what normal procedures are.

So here are my issues with the mother and doctor of the octuplets. First she is SINGLE and has SIX other children. One of those children is Autistic too. Oh and I was a special education teacher before I became a stay at home mom. I have the support of husband and things for me are still hard. I don't have a special needs child either and things can still get rough. I know very well the kind of time and patience that needs to be put in with a child with autism. Her fertility doctor had to know all of this (they do histories on their patients -- or at least responsible ones do). I can totally understand her wanting more children. I feel that no matter how many I have I will always want another. But I know logically that it just can't happen. At some point you have to be able to afford your children. I would love a 3rd but am so worried about having enough money that I just don't think we will.

I also know that when I was taking all the meds to increase my ovulation that they did ultrasounds to determine how many eggs I was going to release in a cycle. Now they did NOT want me to have sex if I had more than 5 eggs release in cycle. My very responsible doc felt it was too much of a risk. That is why I just can not believe the dr. to the octuplet mom put in 6 embryos. It's just crazy. My doc also strongly recommended selective reduction (in fact really pushed for it if it was going to be necessary) meaning if there were more than 3 fertilized eggs they would go in and reduce it to 2 or 3. Now this is hard to deal with but I am fully aware of the problems premature babies have being that I have a Masters in special education. SO the choice of having 2 or 3 healthy normal babies vs. 4 or more with special needs might not be a bad idea. I never had to face this choice but I completely understand where my doc was coming from on this.
I just can't believe the doctor to the single octuplet mom let her have 8 babies at one time and with 6 already at home. Not to mention the kid she already has with special needs. It kind of makes fertility procedures seem extreme and they are not most of the time. I am almost angry because now I see restrictions going into place around fertility procedures. And I am afraid this will also effect legitimate women from having children. Why is it always one person who spoils it for the rest of us???

Confessions of the Day 7

I have now packed almost the same lunch for my son two days in a row. A PBandJ Uncrustable (so it's not like I even made the damn sandwich), milk, cheese stick, grape tomatoes and apple sauce. I have run out of ideas and time in the morning.

I spent about 5 mins. cleaning the inside of my windshield instead of going into my son's school and picking him up on time.

My son caught me eating Jelly Bellies but I lied and told him they were vitamins, so that I didn't have to share with him.

I did nothing to stop my daughter from pulling our very old, and very bitchy cat's tail. In fact I was almost hoping the cat would take a swipe at her and scare her, so she would stop chasing her around the house.

I laughed so hard I started tearing up because my son was annoyed at his sister getting in front of the TV while he was watching Cars, so he took her favorite toy and threw it across the room and said "Go fetch it sister!". And she did and she kept bringing it back to him to throw. I just sat here laughing hysterically and letting him tell her to fetch!

Free Coupons - a giveaway

Alright so this is kinda new to me. But in an effort to save some money and be more frugal I have started clipping coupons and actually using them. So I have my new little system all worked out and organized. But as I was going through all the coupons I haven't used yet, I realized I have a bunch that I will never use. So I am offering to you my loyal readers (all 3 of you) free coupons!! I am taking this idea from a friend's blog because I thought it was a great idea (thanks Jenn). Besides this way they don't go to waste.

So I have 3 groups to choose from. A baby set (baby food and various baby items coupons), a pet set (dog food and treats coupons), and a cleaning/household items set. So if you would like a shot at one or all here's the deal. Leave a comment with the set you would like. If you would like a shot at more than one please use separate comments for each one. I will use a random number generator to pick the winners (if there are more than 3 people who want them). I will end this as soon as I get anyone who wants them. I will then get them in the mail to the winners as soon as I have addresses.

Facebook Blow Offs Part 2

So I did a whole blog on Facebook and the very convenient but annoying ignore feature (click here to read it). Well I have come to realize that there is a whole other level of Facebook blow offs! Yes that's right! You wanna really piss me off??? Send me a friend request and then a few weeks later unfriend me with out any freaking explanation!! This has happened at least 3 times now (one person who I am not really counting accepted my friend request then unfriended me). But here's the thing why even ask to be my friend in first place if you are just going to kick me off a few weeks later? Now I am sure they didn't plan on unfriending me when they initially asked to be friends on Facebook. But lets be honest here ... how freaking hard is to keep someone a friend??? Umm yeah it's not hard at all. In fact it requires nothing! SO it's more effort to unfriend someone because you have to go their profile and click on the button that says remove from friends. Really are my status updates that grating or do I send to many Yoville requests??? OK I will confess that maybe I got a little out of hand with the Yoville thing ... I am a bit addicted. OK back to topic. Anyway unfriending me just pisses me off. At least give me damn wall post or message saying good bye. Don't be a coward people!

The Real World

I love The Real World. I have watched since the very 1st show with Julie, Eric, Becky, Kevin and all the rest (and yes I can name them all I am just sparing you) in New York.


There was nothing like it on TV at that point. Some have said it was the first reality TV show. So maybe that is where I started my reality TV addition! But I was in high school at the time and could relate to Julie and all the things happening to her and the cast. They for the most part were not that much older than myself. Anyway I was hooked and have been ever since. I have watched every season since with out fail.

The new season premiered this week and my Tivo had it waiting for me. So instead of going to bed at a decent hour last night I stayed up and watched the premiere episode of The Real World: Brooklyn.


This season looks like it will be a really good one. But something has changed for me. I still love the show but I have gone from relating to the cast as a peer, to thinking of them like children!!! Oh the horror!!! I guess I have to admit that this started happening a few seasons ago when they were in Denver.
Davis the "gay" one (the very cute blond guy on the left with the yellow shirt) revealed that his mom was very upset by his "choice" to be gay. He broke down and cried and told all about how awful his mom and family had been about his coming out. I was just in tears watching him. And all I could think was how the hell could any mother treat her child that way???? I would never and could never do that to my children. I would be just as proud and happy to have a gay child as a I would to have a straight one. It would not matter a bit to me as long as my child were happy. And all I wanted to do was to reach out to Davis and tell him what a wonderful human being he is and that I would be his mother if he would have me!! So I went from feeling like I could be on The Real World to feeling like I could be the mother of one of the kids on The Real World. Wow I am getting old.

Happy New Year

2009 is here. Wow 2008 went by in blur. So here are some quick reflections/observations from this year.

I will swear up and down and that the differences in boys and girls are mostly genetic and start from the beginning. The differences between my son and daughter are staggering and it's so "typical" male and female stuff it's just scary. There is something to be said for nature vs. nurture.

I would not survive being a stay at home mom without my friends. Now let me say that I have always had a good girlfriend or two but this is the first time I can say I have a couple that are true friends and that I finally feel that I can turn to no matter what happens in my life.

I have finally figured out that things (especially money issues) have a way of working them selves out and it's really just a waste of time and energy stressing about them and it just annoys my husband to no end!

5 year olds are really just a preparation for the teenage years. I swear my son acts and treats me like he's a teenager already, except that he wants books read to him before bed!!

No matter what you do you are NEVER going to please everyone so just make yourself happy and then at least one person is happy!

I think that no matter how many kids I actually end up having or how old they are or I am I will always want another baby. There is just something about babies that I love and will always want in my life. Now I just have to figure out how to deal with this fact and not be one of those crazy families with 15 kids!!!!

NO matter what toys my son claims to love he will always prefer to play with his baby sister's toys. A doll house wins over a Star Wars toy any day in my house especially if his sister is playing with it first!!

So here's to a new year full ups and downs and everything in between!